I recently had someone leave a comment on one of my blog posts that upset me. I actually went back and forth on whether or not I would publish it, but I went ahead and deleted it because this space, my blog, was never supposed to be a negative platform. I was wearing this jumpsuit and the commenter said that the jumpsuit had too much fabric on the sides which made me look bigger than I actually was. This quote (and blog post) from one of my favorite blogs, Into Mind, felt particularly fitting for this situation:
“The concept of dressing for your body type feeds into the idea that looking slim and attractive according to today’s societal ideals is much more important than wearing clothes you personally like…”
We, as women, are constantly told that we need to present ourselves in the best and most flattering way possible. How can we look skinnier? How can we look like we have perfect skin? How can we do all of this without making it seem effortful? What bothered me about that comment was the idea that I shouldn’t dress the way I wanted, but I should wear what makes me look good according to societal norms. My guess is that men aren’t asked to consider what is flattering on them when choosing what to wear…
All of this is to say that I want to continue to commit myself to be authentic and wear what I like on this blog (which I talked about here). My other hope is that this blog doesn’t make you feel anything else but inspired.
In the spirit of authenticity, let’s relive a few un-glamourous (i.e. unflattering) blog moments below. From left to right: that time I splurged on expensive shoes and they were SO uncomfortable, that time I spilled barbecue sauce on my pants and then took an outfit pictures, and that time I participated in an un-intentional wet t-shirt contest.